One of my best friend’s dog passed away just under 2 months ago. When she told me, the pain in her voice brought back feelings as to how I felt when I lost my dog just under 2 years ago. The photo she sent of both our dogs sitting together on a hay bale, brought back so many happy memories that the four of us had shared, even though it was hard to see through the tears that were falling from my eyes – for me, for my dog Hanzi, for her dog Ollie and most of all for her, because I knew what the next few days were going to be like for her. Grief for a lost pet is one of the hardest things to go through, so I have put this article together, to try and help anyone that might be experiencing it – from how I have and still find myself nearly two years on after loosing my best friend. 

Losing a pet is one of the most heartbreaking experiences a person can go through. Whether it’s a loyal dog, a majestic horse, or any other cherished animal companion, the pain of their passing can be overwhelming. For many, pets are not just animals—they are family, best friends, and trusted confidants. Understanding why the loss is so profound and finding ways to cope can help ease the pain and honour the memory of a beloved pet.

Why the Loss of a Pet Hurts So Much

The grief that follows the loss of a pet is often as deep as losing a human loved one. This is because pets hold a special place in our lives and hearts. Here are a few reasons why their loss can be so devastating:

Unconditional Love and Companionship – Pets offer unwavering love and loyalty. They don’t judge, hold grudges, or abandon us in tough times. They are always there to offer comfort and affection.

Daily Presence and Routine – Pets become an integral part of our daily lives. Whether it’s walking the dog in the morning or feeding a horse at the stable, their presence shapes our routines. When they’re gone, an emptiness is left behind.

Emotional Support and Therapy – Many people find solace in their pets during difficult times. Dogs and horses, in particular, have a therapeutic effect, helping with anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Losing them can feel like losing a source of emotional stability.

Shared Experiences and Memories – Every pet brings unique memories—playing fetch, long trail rides, snuggling on the couch. These moments form deep emotional connections, making the loss even more painful.

Ways to Cope with the Loss of a Pet

Grieving a pet is a personal experience, and everyone processes it differently. Here are some ways to help cope with the loss:

 Allow Yourself to Grieve

It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and give yourself permission to grieve. Cry if you need to, talk about your pet, and don’t rush the healing process.

Create a Memorial

Honoring your pet’s memory can be a comforting way to process grief. I personally had Hanzi cremated and keep him at home…. I often find myself rubbing his ash box as I pass by and talking to him… he’s there – obviously not in body, but having my boy at home still offers some relief.   Some other ideas include:

• Planting a tree or flowers in their honour.
• Creating a scrapbook or photo album with pictures and memories.
• Keeping a special item, such as a collar or a horseshoe, as a keepsake.
• Writing a letter to your pet, expressing your love and gratitude.

Talk to Others Who Understand

Joining a pet loss support group or talking to friends and family who have experienced similar losses can help. Sometimes, just knowing you’re not alone in your grief makes a difference. There is still a “stigma” there that pet loss is not as valid as it really is – so do not be ashamed or embarrassed to feel what you do.  

Engage in Self-Care

Losing a pet can take a toll on your mental and emotional health. Make sure to take care of yourself by staying active, eating well, and getting enough rest. Engage in activities that bring you comfort, whether it’s reading, exercising, or just getting lost in a film.

 Consider a Tribute or Donation

Honouring your pet’s legacy can bring a sense of closure. You might donate to an animal shelter in their name, volunteer at a rescue centre, or sponsor an animal in need.  Even donating some of your pets old items can really help a rescue centre. 

Look to offer your home and heart to another animal when you’re Ready

For some, bringing a new pet into their lives can help heal the loss. While no pet can replace the one you lost, opening your heart to another animal can bring new joy and companionship when the time feels right. For some – this might be years, for others it could be a lot sooner – there’s no right or wrong timeframe 

The Lasting Impact of Pets in Our Lives

These animals don’t just share our homes and pastures—they share our souls. The loss of a pet is never easy, but by remembering the love, joy, and connection they brought into our lives, we keep their spirit alive in our hearts forever.

If you’ve lost a pet, know that your grief is valid and that, with time and love, you will find peace in their memory. They may be gone, but their impact will remain forever.

In closing this article  – I want to dedicate this to Hanzi and Ollie – two very special dogs that not just shared a wonderful friendship amongst themselves, but also brought me and Caroline closer as friends.  I will never forget the walks we shared – them digging holes in the sand arena that we had to fill in and just hours of endless joy sharing time with them. 

“The tears we shed are a testament to the love we held for you.”